The Purpose of a Wedding

Here we are wedding planning; 6 months to go until our wedding and 9 months post engagement. My family had a running joke I had my wedding planned since I was twelve, I just had to find a guy. Im so blessed I did; and an amazing one at that, Jack Mikolajczyk. Little did we know when we entered into this wonderful, crazy engagement and wedding planning process how many people to whom we would have to explain the purpose of our wedding; us getting married and starting our married life together. Not: having an expensive party, inviting every person we’ve ever met, centering a giant party around 200+ people’s opinions,  getting drunk, or eating a lot of food. A wedding is about the engaged couple getting married. Simple right? wrong.

In a perfect world, it would be that simple. People would be happy for the engaged couple and be there to share in their joy. They would be at the wedding with no strings attached; just to be there for them, but it’s not that easy. We live in a “ME” culture, ‘I want what I want so I have to manipulate you to get it so I can make myself happy.’ This “ME” culture is anti-what we want in our marriage. When two people get married they become one. They protect, love, and sacrifice for each other. These three things are the priority of our relationship and as of October 21, 2017 will be the priority of this crazy adventure called marriage.

We did not begin our relationship thinking, ‘What is everyone else’s opinion of how we should relationship? How will we relationship without asking everyone we know for their opinion? What ever will we do?!’ We began our relationship having a lot of fun together, caring about each other and put the thoughts, needs, and wants of our partner’s over our own; it was pretty easy. If our relationship is based from that; why would we not be able to have our wedding based from that? The real answer is there is no good reason it couldn’t be. In our relationship only the two of us get a vote. Our vote is for our wedding to be reflective around our relationship, based around the two of us, our love, and a whole lot of fun. We’ve surprisingly gotten a lot of flack for that, and a whole lot of people who want votes, but if a wedding is not based on the love of the engaged couple; it’s just an obscenely expensive party with no love. We don’t want a party; we want a fun, happy, loving, strong marriage.